It’s not a surprise that many of us struggle with incompetence in our bedrooms. By incompetence I mean between us and our bed. Many of us reading right now struggle with acquiring adequate amounts of sleep needed for us to live healthier, creative and fruitful lives. There are many studies, podcasts, books and my favorite TED talks that educate us on how important it is for us to catch as many Zs’ as we can during nighttime. However here is a new outlook on resting and possibly a better way to enhance your sleep life. You thought I would say sex life. Stick with it people! Even though I can attest to being one who’d rather intertwine my soul with my lover in between the sheets during the witching hours, I simply look and feel better when I sleep enough hours instead of skipping resting hours for magical pleasures or for getting work done.
Your sleep patterns can grow old with you
Many Americans take sleep for granted. That is very obvious given that we are usually tired, stressed, irritable and unhealthy. It has dawned on me how much our sleeping environment plays part in how much time we spend in between the sheets. Looking back at my history of sleep I have noticed the differences in my sleep patterns differed from the environments in which I was sleeping in. Growing up I always had trouble sleeping. I grew up in a house that technically never slept much like the city I lived in, New York. My father has had insomnia for the most part of his adult life and he could never sleep until everyone was home, in bed and asleep; and after he’s watched a few hours on the tell-lie-vision. Growing up I was very attached to my father and so staying up late with him was a habit I acquired at the early age of five. When I would be too scared to sleep in my own bed in a room I shared with my two sisters I would share the couch with him and the T.V. until 1:00 am. This kind of behavior may have had something to do with the fact that since I was a toddler my father nurtured me a lot and would hold me close to his stomach almost all of the time. When a parent holds their baby close to their body for long periods of time often a child and that parent will develop a strong energetic connection almost as if they become one form of energy a form I like to call love. A child feels protected and the parent feels powerful as if they were protecting the baby from all harms of the world. This created a very strong bond between my father and I which led me to always run to him and my mom’s room in the middle of the night to sleep in their bed whenever I had a bad dream up until the age of twelve. Whichever way you look at this behavior, it is not the healthiest for a child let alone a pre-teenager. Consciously noticing this as I got older, I watched my contributions to my sleep behavior, unsettlingly enough I realized I never practiced any sleep rituals consistently which may have caused me to never gain an adequate amount sleep.
Healthy living can seem very complicated and daunting. Often we can’t tell what’s really important and we find ourselves obsessed with the details. Organic or free range? Coconut water or mineral water? Body Pump or TRX? But none of this really matters if we’re not getting the basics right.
In this shiny, fast paced, hi-tech world of ours we really can’t see the wood for the trees. Whatever we do and wherever we go, there’s always something new to learn, retain and practice. We’ve become bogged down with the unimportant minutiae – heavy, tired and confused. Having lost the big picture, the details seem very complex. We need to step back, re-evaluate and always remind ourselves of what it’s really all about.
Changing Our View of Healthy Living
So coming up is a very simple view of healthy living. You may in fact feel it’s too simple. That’s OK, I like simple. For the truth of the matter is this: despite knowing the most we’ve ever known about health, we are the unhealthiest we’ve ever been. So maybe it really is time to get back to basics and simplify things? Although I’m a doctor, there’s nothing medical about this – it’s just common sense. Here it is:
Welcome to my house! It has:
- Build your dream house
- Solid Foundations – Food, water, movement, sleep
- 4 walls – Myself, family, partner, friends
- A roof – Peace, purpose
- Fixtures and Fittings – The small details
Food, water, movement and sleep (foundations) support my relationship with myself and with my loved ones (walls), and all these things together support my inner peace and allow me to find and carry out my purpose in life (roof).
The great thing is once you’ve got your foundations, walls and roof, you’ve actually got yourself a house – well done you’re finally on the best property ladder ever! And now you can allow yourself to pick out the fixtures and fittings. But until then, stay grounded and don’t let yourself get overwhelmed with the small details.
Stay Healthy and Balanced While Building a Business
Starting a business requires consistent dedication and focus to meet your goals. Unfortunately in many cases that means pushing your health and well-being to the side. We can get so caught up living our lives and doing what we ‘have’ to do that we can end up with no energy, losing motivation and burning out.
It’s time to take accountability and make sure you look after yourself to ensure you are getting the most from your new business while maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Continue reading
Achieving the ultimate well-being with your family should be structured just like any other goal. Image by photostock
Do you find yourself saying “I’m so tired all the time” or “I just can’t get myself in the mood to do anything” or “I’m just not happy with my life”, then you know that it’s time for a change. There are many reasons as to why one may feel tired or unhappy with life. It would be hard to cover in one post all the things that one can do to be truly happy and achieve that true well-being that we all need and although life can be full of challenges at times, I do believe that everyone can achieve ultimate well-being. It does take commitment from your part and it takes looking into five key areas of your life that influence your overall life and well-being greatly. The five key areas are: sleep, your eating habits, your physical activity, your social life, and your mental/emotional aspect. Why these five areas of your life and not any other area? Because these are the areas (although there are many) that greatly influence everything in your life. Continue reading