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When is it Okay to Give Up on a Dream?

Life has a way of buffeting you about, like you’re on a stormy sea.  And that stormy sea can often disorient you, and knock you way off course, and daze you so much that you don’t even consider getting back on course until the storm eases.

You may have decided in your youth that you were going to be a famous, award-winning actor.  So, to make this dream come true, you attend acting classes, study drama, join a local theatre group, and embrace every opportunity to act that comes your way.  You may head to Los Angeles to break into the film industry like all those Hollywood icons you look up to.

And after several years of going on audition after audition, and not even getting a hint of a part in even the most random, low-budget film, you wonder if perhaps this acting thing might not work out.  You question your ability.  You compare yourself to all the icons whose ranks you desperately desire to join.  And you find that you come up short in almost every way.  You’re no Al Pacino or Meryl Streep.  And in fact, you’ve been told several times on auditions that acting isn’t for you, and that you should probably try something else.  You work in a café, barely make enough money to pay your rent, and all your efforts to become a successful actor have amounted to exactly nothing.

What should you do? Should you give up on this dream and dream another one?

This is the crucial point.  And it is a point which separates those who succeed from those who fail, those who achieve their dreams, and those who don’t.

Rocky Road

I always tell my clients about Sylvester Stallone.  This man knew what he wanted, and he pretty much lost everything in order to get it.  He wanted to be a successful actor just like in our example, but things just weren’t working out for him.  He faced rejection after rejection, was told over and over that he just wasn’t right for the movies, and that he should pick another career!  But he wouldn’t give up.  He was rejected over a thousand times in his quest to succeed, and still he kept going, meeting with virtually no success.

But here’s the kicker in his story.  He did, in fact, shift directions.  He didn’t do it purposely or with any great game plan in mind.  In fact, he was at what he describes as his lowest point, having had to sell his dog, his best friend, as he could no longer afford to feed him.

It was at this point when he saw a fight between Muhammad Ali, and the unknown Chuck Wepner.  Wepner actually went the distance with Ali, which was something no one expected.  Seeing this inspired Stallone, who began to write furiously.

Not too long after that, the film script for Rocky was finished.  This, Stallone reasoned, had to be his ticket to success as an actor.  He would play Rocky!  But of course, no one wanted to know.  Everyone he tried to sell the script to thought it was a silly idea, overly sentimental, and that no one would want to watch it.

Undaunted, Stallone continued.  He simply refused to give up.  He finally came across someone who wanted to make the film, but they did not want him to play the part of Rocky as he was not an accomplished actor.  They offered him a large amount of money, which he turned down, despite the fact that he had no money.  Finally, they agreed to his terms, offered him far less money, and made the picture.  The rest is history.

Two crucial things happened in Stallone’s success story, and they are why you know who he is today.  Firstly, he was absolutely unwilling to give up.  Had he given up after 20 or 30 or 300 rejections and listened to the naysayers, he would never have become the star he is today.  Secondly, he changed direction.  Remember, his dream was to become an actor.  But he turned to writing in order to accomplish it.  He was open to the idea, albeit perhaps subconsciously, that his dream could come true via a different route.  Had he not written that script and been so determined to play the part of Rocky, again, he may never have made it as an actor.

Is it Okay to Give Up on My Dream?

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Shocking Revelation on Why You Quit Exercise!

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You could be exercising and eating right and still not getting the results you should. You know why? The surprising answer could be that you are suffering from the “nocebo” effect. It’s the evil twin brother of the “placebo” effect. Continue reading

The 1 Piece of Advice You Need to Succeed in 2018 and Beyond

Raring to go

It’s a new year, a new beginning and you are raring to go. Will you still be as enthusiastic in a few months? Do you know what it takes to get to the finish line? Image by stockimages

It is 2018 Now What?

You have been warming up and getting ready to get on the stage to perform. In your mind you have imagined over and over about how you are going to perform on stage. How you will entertain the audience and how you will make them laugh and intrigue them.

Imagine that all the preparation is over and now you are on stage. Now is the time that you need to perform. Now is the time that you need to stick to your guns and remove any self-doubt. Whatever you planned to do on stage do it without hesitation and don’t back down.

I am sure many of us have already read a few articles recently on how to make resolutions for the new year and how to keep them. We read these articles almost every year around December all the way through February.

This is not one of those articles! I am here to give you a step-by-step guide that will make everything you touch turn into gold. I am here to tell you about the one thing that will make you a winner regardless of your situation.

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Ruby Huisman Interview BMX Champion

Meet Ruby Huisman – 2016 UCI BMX World Junior Champion

Ruby Huisman (17)  is the current UCI BMX Supercross world junior champion. On the 29th of May, 2016, she annihilated her opponents in Medellin, Colombia to become the #1 BMX junior talent in the world. Not only is she a champion in BMX, she is a champion at life. I was fortunate enough to get the opportunity to ask her some questions about her life, challenges, and victories. There is a message in her answers for those who want to pursue their dreams.

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I still love it as much as at the beginning. The adrenaline, the speed! That gives me so much energy!

Getting to Know Ruby Huisman

So who is Ruby Huisman as a person? Tell us about yourself.

I’m Ruby. I’m 17 years old and I live in Holland. I ride for the Dutch national talent team and have been on my  BMX for 12 years. So I started at an age of 5.

Where do you place BMX in its importance in your life? That is, would you say competing is as important as your family and friends?

BMX is a very big part of my life. Of course, family and friends are important, but they know that BMX is important to me. Most of the time I’m focused on BMX. I do everything for it: my school, food, and appointments with friends and family are geared to BMX.

How different is it being with friends from outside the BMX world vs. those you make in the sport?

My BMX friends are so different from my friends at school. But I think that’s funny because in the world of BMX everyone is just themselves. That’s why I love BMX. At school, that’s different of course. Once I had a party for my birthday and I had my BMX friends and friends from school. It didn’t really work out that well haha.

Challenges

What has been the biggest challenge to success and what have you learnt from it?

Hmm… I think that’s just to believe in myself.  Sometimes I became uncertain and that made it really hard for me. At my gym sessions and track sessions, I always thought to myself: “I need to train like I’m number #2  in the world”.

Do training and competing interfere with a “normal” life: school, friends, and so on?

Sometimes I get really tired of everything, yes. But then I watch my old videos and I get motivated again so well!

Motivation

I am curious; why BMX – how did it all start?

Haha, first I rode a horse. When I was 5, I saw my 2 brothers riding a BMX in Baarn, Holland. They told me I could try it too. Of course, I did that, because I wanted to be just like my brothers. From then on I never stopped. I still love it as much as at the beginning. The adrenaline, the speed! That gives me so much energy!

Ruby Huisman BMX World Junior Champion

I always thought to myself: “I need to train like I’m number #2 in the world”.

Who is your biggest idol who motivates you every day?

I don’t really have an idol, but if I have to choose I think that’s Mariana Pajon. Our gold medallist in London 2012. I really like her style of racing and she’s always smiling! And that is the most important thing.

Is it the sheer nature of competition that drives your interest?

It  absolutely is! I always want to give my best. Whatever competition it is.

Success

You are the current BMX junior champion of the world. Tell us about the successes that came before getting here.

When I was 9 I became world champion in China as well. I think in 2014 I was getting much better than before. I had started training with a new coach. When I was 16 and a first-year junior, I made it to two semi-finals at the WorldCup in Manchester and Papendal. At the European final I came 2nd and was the world’s 5th  in 2015.

So I have been dying to ask you this question: How did it feel when you crossed that finishing line knowing you beat the best of the best?

Ruby Huisman UCI BMX Champion

I worked really hard for it and it was a dream that became reality; a very emotional moment for me.

I couldn’t believe it. The next morning when I woke up and saw that rainbow jersey next to me I believed it. I saw some videos of me crossing the finish line. I can’t even remember much from that moment. I worked really hard for it and it was a dream that became reality; a very emotional moment for me.

The Future

What are you looking to accomplish next?

Next year I get promoted to the elite women division. I’m not very nervous for 2017. I will be a first-year elite competitor. No pressure! I will just do my very best and will see where things go from there.

You are very talented, but what is your plan to ultimate success in BMX and life as a whole?

My biggest dream is to get gold to the Olympics of course. First, I just want to go to the Olympics and then I will see what happens. Tokyo 2020, here I come :).

What can young women learn from your experience thus far in order to improve their future?

Make your dreams come true. Keep that motivation in your head all the time you train, sleep, eat, do good and good will come your way.

Please tell the readers where they can see you compete next.

I’m racing at the European final in Verona Italy 10-7-2016 next.

Good luck in Italy; we know you’ll make us proud!

Thank you very much for taking the time to answer our questions.

It has been a pleasure having you on The Zeit.


Interview conducted by Alwi Mohamed Suleiman – Content Manager and Editor-in-Chief for The Zeit.

Stress relief

Why Minimizing Your Life Could Be the Answer to Your Stress

Stress is something we encounter every day, from work obligations to family requirements, and everything in between. Americans, however, experience more stress than is healthy — and they may not be doing much about it.

Even though Americans’ stress levels are starting to decrease overall from previous years, there are still 42 percent of people who aren’t taking the time to keep their stress in check.

Ways to Lower Your Stress Levels

What can you do to manage stress? The kneejerk reaction is often to make more money, do more and be more.

In truth, however, eliminating elements from your life will provide you with the clarity, space and time you so desire. The answer to your stress problems is available through minimizing different aspects of your life.

Here are three ways to start de-cluttering and cleansing your world:

1- Forget Storing, Embrace Purging

Don’t spend any more of your time or money on storage systems. It’s not that the perfect containment system for all your stuff eludes you — it’s simply that you have too many belongings.

With possessions comes responsibility — and stress. If you don’t have heaps of belongings to worry about and take care of, you will spare yourself that time and energy of trying to keep track of it all.

Additionally, when you are selective about the items you keep, only the useful and meaningful items will remain. This will actually save you time in the long run, as you won’t have to go searching for items amongst all your unwanted clothing, housewares and possessions. You’ll have a very clear mental catalog of what you held onto.

If you need a little added motivation, look at the bestselling book, “Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing Book” by Japanese cleaning consultant, Marie Kondo. It details how to begin bringing minimalism into your home by sorting through what’s there.

Once you’re done culling, you can donate your unwanted belongings to various charities including Goodwill or the Salvation Army.Bigger Isn’t Better

2- Bigger Isn’t Better

Somehow the American Dream got caught up in the notion that bigger is better, especially with homes. Coming in second only to Australia, US homeowners have the largest average house size in the world — with a footprint of over 2,000 square feet.

With each square foot comes a higher price tag, meaning higher mortgage payments, property taxes and debt. Not only that, but monthly costs, such as utility bills, also go up since there is more space that needs to be supplied with power, water and heating/cooling.

In an effort to avoid these costs, people are opting for smaller homes. Some folks are even moving into tiny homes — less than 500 square feet. Some are traditional structures, and some are less traditional ones including buses, campers and shipping containers.

Each tiny living space allows the occupant to be free of crushing living expenses and money woes each month. All overhead costs decrease when living in a tiny house.

Tiny homes also discourage hoarding or excess accumulation of food and household products. With the limited amount of space available, only choice items can be housed. This empowers residents to invest in high-quality possessions. These pieces will last longer and will be more likely to be treasured possessions rather than a conglomeration of so-so items.

3- Go Paperless & Online

Papers have a way of stacking up on countertops, office desks and by the front door. The time and energy required to open, read, deal with and then file the paperwork could be better spent.

Opting to go paperless via online billing and banking reallocates that time for other, more fulfilling tasks. It will also eliminate physical clutter and allow for more accurate and efficient bookkeeping.

We’re all busy people, juggling a multitude of tasks and expectations. If meaningful efficiencies can be found in our day-to-day lives, we’ll be better able to spend our precious time with who and what we love.

Practicing simplicity and minimalism isn’t about depriving yourself. Rather, it’s about making the very most of what you have — and eliminating stress in the process.


Jennifer Landis is a tea-drinking, yoga loving, clean eating blogger, writer, wife, and mother. You can find more from Jennifer at her blog, Mindfulness Mama.

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The #1 Reason Why You’re Not Losing Weight? You’re Not Drinking Enough Water!

 

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Okay, there is nothing sexy about this. All I drink is water. I’ll have a diet Coke if I go out to eat on the weekends to make me feel like I’m not really dieting. But other than that, it’s all water. Now, I’m one of those girls who like to order fruit smoothies with her dinner and drink a tall glass of apple juice with my breakfast. But while dieting, I realized that I was drinking lots of my calories. And trust me, I’d rather apply my calories to something more filling and fun like yogurt, granola or a chocolate rice cake. So I had to cut out the fun drinks. But, guess what?  When I drink water, I lose weight. If I eat right, exercise but don’t drink lots of water, the weight comes off much slower. So that should be motivation enough as to why you should get your drink on.

I try to get in six to eight 16-ounce bottles a day. My goal is to drink a gallon of water daily. However, if I hit 5-6 six bottles in a day, I’m cool with that.  I know it can be tough to get in all that water each day. That’s why I’m sharing 3 tips and tricks that I use to get them in.

Tip #1 – Work Out

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I find that I drink way more water on the days that I work out. I can go through two 16-ounce bottles of water during my workout. I’ll have a bottle with my breakfast and then I’ll force another bottle down right before I hit the showers. That’s four bottles of water – a half gallon of water – all before 10:00am! I’ll down two bottles with lunch and two more with my dinner. There you have it, a gallon of water in a day.

Tip #2 – Put Your Water in a Visible Place

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One thing that helps is that when I get up in the morning, I’ll immediately put eight bottles of water out on the counter. I do this for two reasons. The first reason I do this is so I can see the water. Just seeing it is a constant reminder to drink my water. The second reason I do this is because I lose track of how many bottles I’ve consumed throughout the day. During the day, I am running after my kids, doing laundry and working on the computer. It’s easy for me to forget how many bottles of water I have already drank. Just a quick look at the counter and I know how many more bottles I need to drink to reach my goal of a gallon a day. Continue reading

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6 Reasons Why Your New Year Resolutions Will Fail

No need for an intro, we’ve all been there before, so let’s get started:

1- You’ve Set Unrealistic Goals

According to a study published on PubMed, ‘Adherence to an exercise prescription scheme: the role of expectations, self-efficacy, stage of change and psychological well-being.’, it is imperative you set the resolutions just above what’s attainable, so that you can achieve your goals with some level of pushing.

2- You Forgot That It Is Hard Work

At the end of the year, we become so optimistic and set goals that we know need hard work to achieve. When the time comes to execute, that optimism is not there anymore to push us through. This results in going back to our old habits.new year resolution dog

3- That List Is Too Long Dude

Have you heard of the dilution effect? The longer your list of resolutions is, the less chance you have of completing any of the tasks on the list. Make short term plans, even weekly if possible. Achieving goals should be sprints and not marathons. This is why I prefer planning throughout the year over end-of-year resolutions. Continue reading