No need for an intro, we’ve all been there before, so let’s get started:
1- You’ve Set Unrealistic Goals
According to a study published on PubMed, ‘Adherence to an exercise prescription scheme: the role of expectations, self-efficacy, stage of change and psychological well-being.’, it is imperative you set the resolutions just above what’s attainable, so that you can achieve your goals with some level of pushing.
2- You Forgot That It Is Hard Work
At the end of the year, we become so optimistic and set goals that we know need hard work to achieve. When the time comes to execute, that optimism is not there anymore to push us through. This results in going back to our old habits.
3- That List Is Too Long Dude
Have you heard of the dilution effect? The longer your list of resolutions is, the less chance you have of completing any of the tasks on the list. Make short term plans, even weekly if possible. Achieving goals should be sprints and not marathons. This is why I prefer planning throughout the year over end-of-year resolutions. Continue reading
Are you thinking of something new but not sure where to begin? Have you had a dream to visit a new place, go back to school, try a new career, take up a new hobby, live a more healthy lifestyle or experience an exciting new adventure? What is stopping you?
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When I was growing up in Kenya, I had no idea that I would one day end up in a winter wonderland known as Canada. I was 20 years old and one sunny August afternoon, I waved goodbye to my family in Nairobi and embarked on a new adventure as an international student. After a layover in Dubai, London and New Jersey, and one missed flight later, I arrived in a surprisingly humid Montréal in the middle of the night, wondering what had possessed me to leave the comfort of my home and family for this strange new place. It wasn’t long before I had my first experience of snow, frolicking in the soft snowflakes like a bedazzled child.
Despite the challenges of transitioning to a new culture, I feel enriched by my experiences and have learned to be more open-minded to new situations. The more I allowed myself to get out of my comfort zone, the bolder I felt to try more and more new things. After a stimulating research career in the pharmaceutical industry, I am finally pursuing my dream of becoming a physician, and have just submitted my applications to medical school! Continue reading
I am a beautiful girl and I am precious. Image by stockimages
I was fifteen years old when it happened and had no idea what was wrong with me. I had just woken up and went to the restroom and not to a surprise, noticed my body had began “beautifying” is what I call it when I begin my menstrual cycle. In that moment I had decided to just jump in the shower and start off my day. I remember it vividly; coming out the shower, wrapping the towel around me and walking back to my room. I was standing in front of my mirror when in a second my vision began to turn black starting with my peripheral then everything turned black. I got so scared knowing I couldn’t see anything with my eyes open that I closed them, held on to the mirror and took a seat on the floor. I was alone at home and all I could say out loud was, “Oh my god, I going blind, I’m going blind, help me god, help me god!.” For the longest 30 seconds of my life I didn’t understand what was happening to my body but I already began feeling cramps in my abdomen prior to losing my sight. I gained my vision back after taking a few deep breaths while on the floor and once I did, I quickly stood up got dressed and laid down on my bed. My parents came home shortly after that and by that point I was curled up in a ball, crying my eyes out holding my stomach. At that time I wasn’t sexually active and led what I believed to be a healthy life style. I was an athlete in school and a busy body even at home. Continue reading
Are you afraid of transforming into a better you ? Image by Twobee
The Monarch caterpillar has no choice. From the time it emerges out into the world to become an eating machine, it has but one destiny: it will transform into a Monarch Butterfly. It is a necessary part of its life cycle. It begins life in one form and will end it in an entirely different form. We consider this transformation to be an amazing feat of nature, and yet in viewing it with such awe, we forget that we ourselves often transform in even more dramatic and powerful ways.
There is a crucial difference though: We have a choice: To transform or not to transform?
I work with people who want something better for themselves, for their lives. They are not happy with where they are, and they desire to move into a place that they believe will make them happier, more fulfilled. In the course of my work, I often see people make amazing transformations. Nervous, frightened, timid, anxious people become confident powerhouses of performance and excellence. They transform.
But then they want to transform. They are willing to take the steps and do the work that brings about that transformation. They desire and so choose the transformation. Not all people who are at a miserable place in their lives choose to make such transformations. They know they can become the beautiful, free butterfly, but they opt for remaining the caterpillar and all the limitations that go with that choice. They do this largely out of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of becoming something more, which will introduce a more complex set of responsibilities to their lives. Continue reading
That time of year is quickly approaching us. The time of year when you wake up on January 1st, stumble into the bathroom and shake your head trying to rid yourself of a ’10-day food, alcohol and holiday merriment’ haze. You look at your disheveled self in the mirror, brush your bed hair out of your eyes and make a declaration that “today is the day I make a change!”
Then you find yourself, a day, a week or a month later in the same spot you were that day you brushed your hair out of your eyes. (Not physically of course, literally, because that would be a long time to stare at yourself in the bathroom mirror.) Many start with the best of intentions but find more often than not their resolutions pushed to the wayside and quickly forgotten like the sweater your grandmother gave you for Christmas last year that was 2 sizes too small and is stuffed in the back of your overflowing closet.
I’m going to show you how to create resolutions that will not fall by the wayside and will stick, like that cherry-red piece of gum on the bottom of your shoe. Continue reading