Setting Your Intentions for 2017- Reflection Questions to Support You

Hi Gorgeous Soul,

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I am a huge goal setter and I love that feeling of going on the journey, experiencing the challenges and that amazing feeling of ACCOMPLISHMENT once I’ve achieved the goal. I also emphasize the importance of celebrating the mini triumphs in your journey, because it’s all about embracing the journey and learning about yourself.  It’s incredible to see what you’re made of when you achieve something that you see as totally outside of your comfort zone and/or a goal that you weren’t sure you were going to be able to achieve.

It really helps build that confidence muscle.

So I personally sat down and journalled about the following reflection questions, and I encourage you to do the same to help you celebrate your own successes of 2016, what you’d like to let go of, and where you’d like focus on for 2017.  (Source: Michael E. Angier)

  1. What did I learn? (skills, knowledge, awareness, etc.)
  2. What did I accomplish? A list of my wins and achievements.
  3. What would I have done differently? Why?
  4. What did I complete or release? What still feels incomplete to me?
  5. What were the most significant events of the year past? List the top three.
  6. What did I do right? What do I feel especially good about? What was my greatest contribution?
  7. What were the fun things I did? What were the not-so-fun?
  8. What were my biggest challenges/roadblocks/difficulties?
  9. How am I different this year than last?
  10. For what am I particularly grateful for?
  11. List all the things in your life of which you’d like to let go—anything that no longer serves you. Give thanks for what they’ve brought you in terms of learning and usefulness and then burn the list. It’s a symbolic gesture to help you release the old and be open to the new.
  12. List what you do want—experiences, knowledge, material things, relationships, healings, etc. 

My word for 2016 was ABUNDANCE. I wanted to manifest Abundance in all forms: love, friendships, connections, speaking, writing gigs, events, clients, contributing to society by giving back, and opportunities to help me grow personally and professionally.

I just wanted to share and celebrate with you my top personal and professional accomplishments for 2016, as it’s been the best year of my life so far!!!🙂

Creating multiple online Body Love programs:

  • Webinars
  • Holistic Body Love Food, Body Image and Self Love Transformation Online Program
  • Mapping Your Strong Self Program
  • Holistic Body Love Detox & Mindset Program

Two magazine covers and written articles on Self-Love and Goal Setting

  1. December issue of International Women’s Fitness Magazine Gorgo
  2. Local magazine featuring my boys and I🙂
  • First international Talk at Gorgo Fitness Bootcamp in KY
  • Increased professional wellness speaking events
  • Completed my 11th facilitation of “Transform & Deepen Your Relationship with Food & Body” Women’s Group
  • Started Holistic Body Love Philanthropy Program to give back and help young girls and boys develop self-esteem, confidence & self-love!
  • Completed 3 levels of Personal Development- learned how to increase my vibration and spiritual connection to my Highest Self (continuing this for 2017!)
  • Learned how to manifest my dreams (and continuing to do so for 2017).
  • Become more present in my life, especially as a parent (toughest job ever!)
  • Started a new company, Holistic Body Love Coaching Inc. on top of maintaining my successful psychological private practice!

Here’s the thing: all this was only possible because I took the courage to work through some major mindset roadblocks, my own fears and allow myself to make mistakes. This required me to hire coaches, become vulnerable, look deep within myself and ask for and receive support. I truly discovered what I am made of (I have done some things that I never imagined doing!), and I am tremendously grateful for all the support I have in my life to help me achieve what I have achieved in 2016. 

I encourage you to go through these reflection questions. Having a coach and support is important and crucial part of the growth process.

I’m here to support you when you’re ready.  Book in your complimentary coaching strategy session to see how I can best support you here

Wishing you all the best for 2017.

Xo,

Rosalyn Fung, M.Sc.

Body Love Coach & Registered Psychologist

http://www.holisticbodylove.ca

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Tips to Thrive During Holiday Season

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Going into the holidays invites excitement, but for a lot of people, it also means feeling a lot of stress…particularly stress around family relationships and stress around gaining weight.

There is often a vicious cycle that happens: feeling stress–>turn to food for comfort—> feel guilty—> beat self up—-> feeling stress; repeat cycle.

For those of you who are conscious eaters or have a certain eating style (paleo, vegan, vegetarian, gluten-free, weight watchers, insert your eating style here), it can be increasingly stressful since there may be many holidays meals shared at friends and family members’ homes.

It’s not uncommon for my clients to feel more anxious around food and weight gain around this time of year.

So here are some tips to support you to stay grounded through the holidays, regardless of your eating style.

  1. SET BOUNDARIES

Boundaries are about stating the imaginary lines of your personal comfort zone to create and maintain mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

When it comes to maintaining healthy boundaries to stay out of family “drama”, proactively have assertive heart to heart chats with the family members to let them know what your boundary is, and that if they cross your boundary, you will cue them with a code word, and how you will behave (e.g., walk away), shall they continue to cross your boundary.

When it comes to food policers (“Are you going to eat all that?!”, “Wow you eat a lot!”, “you’re not eating enough!”) and food pushers (“Come on, have another bite!”), you will definitely need to state your boundaries.

For food policers, you can state: “I would appreciate it if you just let me choose what I want to eat and not comment about it. Let’s talk about something more important than what I’m eating”.

For food pushers, politely state “Thank you but I am feeling satisfied right now and would like to hold off. I may try it in a bit” and redirect the attention to another topic.

2) HYDRATE with H20 and Drink Green Tea

Most likely you will be eating food with more salt and sugar, so drink a lot of water and green tea. Green tea has plenty of antioxidants and there are studies that show that green tea has been shown to boost the metabolic rate and increase fat burning in the short term. Plus, I personally find green tea soothing to drink.

3) BRING YOUR OWN DISH TO SHARE

When it comes to family dinners, if you have a certain eating style that you know may not be met at the guests’ home, bring a dish of your own that accommodates your eating style to share with the guests.

Now I also have a disclaimer with this suggestion because it really depends on your mindset. If you have a very strict, structured, rigid way of eating and you’re “afraid” of eating other foods because you will “get fat”, bloat, gain weight, etc. (and not because of healthy reasons like having a severe allergic reaction), then I caution you to check in with yourself to ask yourself, “Am I bringing this food because I fear eating foods outside of my eating style?” If the answer is yes, then I suggest connecting with me to coach you to stop fearing food for good😉

4) PUT SOCIALIZING IN THE FOREGROUND and FOOD IN THE BACKGROUND

Food is very central to holiday events, and of course it is associated with love and celebration. There is nothing wrong with this. What isn’t helpful is when people focus so much on the food in ways that gets them obsessed about it, and forgetting that holiday events are also about connecting with others, having fun, and being grateful for things in life. So I encourage you to focus on social relationships, and have 3 questions in mind to ask people so that you can focus on learning more about them (and think less about food).

5) EAT MINDFULLY

When it is time to eat, check in with yourself using a mental hunger scale from 1-5, where 1 = hungry and 5= almost uncomfortably full. You want to eat to the point of 4, which is energy. You could have another bite, but you could also leave it and move on to the next activity. This is a practice, and it will take some trial-and-error to figure out what a 4 feels like for you.

6) KEEP YOUR SELF-CARE RITUALS

Even if you’re away from home, proactively create some self-care rituals to help you stay grounded. So for me personally, I like to make sure I get at least 20-30 minutes exercise time in daily.

If I’m away, I will- ahead of time- research where the gym is or yoga classes or even just know that I can go outside for a walk/run or YouTube 20 minute workout videos that involve body weight (or my kids as my weights!)

Moving my body is really important for me to stay energized, relieve stress and get those endorphins going (which creates the “runner’s high”). Plus it’s just nice to have some personal space away.

I also continue to start my day with  positive affirmations and breathe in my Young Living Essential Oils. And for my nighttime self-care ritual, hot showers are a must.

So I encourage you to think of 3 self-care rituals to engage in throughout the day to keep those as your grounding points.

Enjoy your holiday season, from my family to yours!!!

Rosalyn Fung, M.Sc., Holistic Body Love Coaching

http://www.holisticbodylove.com

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Holistic Body Love Coach & Psychologist on A Women’s Fitness Magazine Cover Inspiring you to Flex Your Self-Love Muscle

WOW WOW WOW!!!!!!

A DREAM COME TRUE!!!!

Ever since I was a teen, I’ve always dreamed I’d be on the cover of a fitness magazine…

However, I NEVER dreamed it to be when I have a fuller, curvier and softer shape, with stretch marks on my “squishy” belly (as my son likes to describe it) until I learned to LOVE MY BODY 

After almost a decade of chronic dieting to finally achieve a lean, 6 pack physique to compete in a figure competition in 2008, it was my “A-ha moment” that having what our society would see as an “ideal body” only brought on, for me, extreme obsession and rigidity with eating, binge eating behaviors, self-consciousness, constantly beating myself up and never feeling good enough – not to mention comparing myself to others to see if I measured up (and what do you think I felt? Yep- still never felt as pretty, as fit looking, muscular and lean enough…

Unfortunately, we live in such a society that focuses so much on WEIGHT and IMAGE.

So I had enough of trying to chase and maintain the perfect body, and decided to just learn to love myself and my body, and SEPARATE MY WORTH as a person FROM MY BODY’S SHAPE, SIZE & WEIGHT.

And today, I am so proud to be on a cover of GORGO Fitness Magazine, an AMAZING women’s international online fitness magazine that embraces STRONG, HEALTHY, FIT, INSPIRING AND EMPOWERING WOMEN in every shape and size!!! I wouldn’t want to have my first fitness cover be any other magazine!!!

I chose purposely to wear a tiny sports bra so I could show my belly-the part of my body that I HATED for most of my life (even when it was smaller and flatter)… and now, my belly being the biggest it’s probably ever been (not counting pregnancies), is a part of me that I have grown to love, no matter what it looks like.

Thank you GORGO Fitness Magazine for NOT retouching my photo, I LOVE my tiger stripes and my soft round gorgeous belly. There is so much loving energy that is held here.

I am SO DEEPLY HONORED and in ABUNDANT JOY to be able to be part of a BODY LOVE MOVEMENT and show off my INNER STRENGTH & CONFIDENCE on a cover of a magazine!

My body doesn’t have to be lean, streamlined, muscles popping to be strong, lift more than my body weight, sprint fast, be flexible, agile, do weighted burpees regularly, squat jumps, run half a marathon on trails, and kick butt in martial arts.

Words cannot describe how AWESOME it is to feel so FREE with food and feel ROCKIN’ in my naked body 

Go and download your very own copy, in which I also wrote a powerful article on Flexing Your Self-Love Muscle on p.22!!!

There’s so much juicy stuff in this magazine from self-love, to nutrition, to moving your body, inspiration and so much more! I HIGHLY suggest you subscribe 

And while you’re at it, contact me here for a complimentary body love coaching strategy session so you can feel FOOD FREEDOM and feel ROCKING in your naked body too!!!  

7 Ways Workforce Analytics Will Increase Productivity and Sales

A topic that is a bit different than usual. Nevertheless it is about being efficient in life and work so it seems appropriate for The Zeit.
Data can be used for lots of different things: to streamline production, spotlight customer service issues, even illuminate budget strategies. But one thing that’s getting more use by managers with their data is analyzing how their workforce is used—and how it can be optimized.
Yes, data can point out ways to automate your work processes—but that’s not the only goal. It can coalesce information on habits or time management, for example. It can also help you create schedules that better adapt to not only your customers’ needs, but your employees’ strengths, too.
Ready to tackle this important topic? This graphic gets you started:

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How to Set Goals, Stick to them and Achieve Them!

Do you set goals with excitement and gung-ho attitude that you are going to “crush” your goals, have fantastic energy and momentum at the start, make some great progress, but maybe a few weeks later, you find yourself slowing down, or perhaps even feeling unmotivated?

Why does this happen and more importantly, how can you make sure to see your goals through?

To understand how our brain works, picture an iceberg which will be representative of our brain. The tip of the iceberg that is visible symbolizes our conscious brain, which is only about 10% of our brain. This part of our brain stores both conscious and unconscious core beliefs. Core beliefs are the files we have that open up and have us react to situations in a certain way because of what we believe, which are formed unconsciously in childhood. These beliefs can serve us or not serve us today. The rest of the iceberg, which is 90%, is our unconscious brain, stores unconscious beliefs.

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We consciously set goals, or another word for this is setting INTENTIONS. So for example, when it comes to weight loss, you may set an intention to lose 20 pounds to improve your health. Let’s say you manage to stay on track to lose 10 pounds over the next eight weeks. Then the next couple weeks, you find yourself starting to eat more foods that do not serve your goals, you are exercising less often and you find yourself giving into your excuses. You even gain back four pounds.

What’s happening? Why are you getting off track from your intention?

Because somewhere in your unconscious part of your brain, you have limiting unconscious beliefs that are sabotaging your efforts. It may sound like, “I am not worthy of my desires”, “It is not safe to be in this body” (usually comes up in cases where a person has been abused as a child), “I do not deserve success”. Again these messages were created unconsciously as a young child (usually) based on our family system, and experiences with peers, teachers, and other influential people in our lives.

So even though you consciously are telling yourself, “Yes I REALLY do want to lose 20 pounds”, there is somewhere inside, unconsciously that does not agree with this. It’s based on fear.

So then, how can you make sure to see your goals through? Here is a blue print for you:

  • Write down your intentions/goals specifically. Track your progress. Remember, results are a reflection of what is happening in the unconscious brain. When you achieve results, your conscious and unconscious beliefs are in alignment. When you only make it up to a certain progress, then your conscious and unconscious minds are not matching.
  • If you notice you are plateauing, sabotaging, or regressing in your goals, take some time to write down honestly what is going on.

So in the example above, it’s acknowledging what is going on regarding behaviors. Writing down statements such as: “I am choosing to eat when I am bored, stressed or to reward myself.” “I am choosing to get distracted by unimportant things rather than work out.” Note the language that you are choosing to do these behaviors.

  • This next step can be a difficult one because you are addressing uncomfortable thoughts and feelings as you dig deeper into your unconscious:

Perhaps you do not feel safe in your body because of past experiences such as being bullied and teased for your body size; your body betrayed you someway with an illness, or you were sexually abused so you cannot trust that your body keeps you safe, because it did not.

Many times, what I see is that as my clients are losing weight, they are getting more attention. This makes them uncomfortable in their body, because of their past experiences. This is a good step to connect with a trained professional such as a coach or therapist to support you in this step to work through these unconscious core beliefs. We are wounded in relationships, so it only makes sense to be healed in relationships (starting with that of a trained professional).

  • Address how you will work through these limiting beliefs. A good start is to create a statement called an affirmation, that is the opposite of your limiting belief. So following the above example:

“ I am safe in this body now”. Repeat this statement consciously multiple times a day, especially when you are feeling triggered in feeling uncomfortable. In many ways, you are re-parenting your inner child.

You can also create concrete examples of how to cope with stress, boredom and rewards without turning to food. This is all about changing your self-talk and behaviors to support your new positive self-talk.

  • Get support. Once again, a mindset coach and/or a like-minded group can be extremely helpful to keep your accountability. Research shows that in the absence of the right support, unfortunately, environment always wins. So it’s important to surround yourself with like-minded, positive people who can cheer-lead and believe in you.

I hope this article helps you create breakthroughs to crush those goals this year! I’d love to support you if that resonates with you!

Rosalyn Fung, M.Sc., is Founder of Holistic Body Love Coaching Inc.,

a Self-Loveroz6 Transformational Coach & Registered Psychologist.

She loves inspiring others to be empowered in their relationship with food, body, money, health, confidence, and living a joyful and abundant life.

To schedule your COMPLIMENTARY strategy session to see how she can support you in achieving your goals, book here.

Make Fear Your Friend to Achieve Your Goals

Fear – we all hate that feeling of being uncomfortable and scared. Fear also shows up in anxiety, overwhelm , feeling stuck, and self-doubt. Fear has many masks.

However it shows up for you, fear stops you from taking action to go to the next level in your life. As a result, you can’t live in your highest version of yourself and be happier.

Let me use this analogy to help you understand conceptually how you may be allowing fear to keep you playing small.

If you look at a spaceship, it needs to have to enough momentum to escape the gravitational force field in order to enter space. Once the rocket enters space, then it’s smooth gliding from there and the view is phenomenal, isn’t it?

Now imagine that YOU are the spaceship and the gravitational force field is your comfort zone, and outside of your comfort zone is fear. You need to have enough momentum and energy to take yourself past this force field in order to really get to where you need to get to when it comes to achieving your goals – whether that’s making new friends, trying a new hobby, changing your relationship with food, achieving your dream body, starting a new business or letting go of a toxic relationship.

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Once you achieve your goal, you experience a state of feeling exhilarated, powerful, and proud of yourself, amongst other amazing feelings. It’s truly incredible how the Universe really does provide you the supports you need to help you get to where you want to go, when you are truly opened to it.

Whatever your “goal” is, let yourself make friends with fear, because without it, your goals are not challenging you enough to get you into your Highest Self. So making friends with fear is about leaning into the resistance, rather than avoiding or fighting it.

Here’s an example. My client Kate (note: name is changed to maintain confidentiality) came to see me because she wants to lose weight and feels frustrated with not achieving this goal. She has been following a very structured eating plan. However, her approach to her relationship with food has her constantly obsessed with it- from the amount of time she has to take planning and prepping so that she eats the perfect amount of protein, carbs, fats down to the measurement, to thinking about the next meal she eats, to figuring out how to sneak in that cupcake and then work out extra hard so she can eat it, to overindulging at parties at the bread and dessert table, to obsessing over the number on the scale and getting frustrated that the results are not happening fast enough…she cannot stop obsessing about food, and it completely controls her life. She’s constantly thinking or talking about losing weight to her friends and family.

What I invite Kate to do next is to learn to let go of control in her relationship with food. The very aspect that keeps her tight and controlled is the same aspect that is keeping her playing small and “falsely safe”. Letting go of control of course brings up extreme amount of discomfort and fear. “If I let go of being so structured and controlling with food, how will I ever lose weight?!” This does not make sense to Kate because her fear makes her believe that letting go emotionally and mentally is equivalent of letting herself go physically.  In fact, this is not true.

Kate needs the “momentum” of learning to face her fear and work through it, which is where I come in to support and guide her with strategies so that she can pierce past the boundaries of her comfort zone (that is, how she was going into relationship with food).

After only working with Kate for a few sessions and having her understand the negative impact control had over her in mind, body and spirit, and learning tools to approach her relationship with food and her body in a more loving, gentle way, she started to lose the weight. Today, Kate has lost her goal weight and more importantly, speaks to herself kindly and feels at peace in her relationship with food. She is “soaring” and feeling free! Yay Kate!

If you’re inspired and resonate with Kate’s story, I’d love to support you as a Self-Love IMG_0909Transformational Coach!

Go ahead and book in a complimentary strategy session with me now to see how I can best help you achieve your goals! I’d absolutely love to!🙂

Rosalyn Fung, M.Sc., is the Founder of Holistic Body Love. You can learn more about her on her website here.

How to Enjoy Thanksgiving without Overeating, Binging or Feeling Guilty

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Canadian Thanksgiving Is this weekend, and American Thanksgiving is not far behind!

Thanksgiving and other special occasions are usually events that are celebrated with food…and LOTS of it. It’s a time where we joke about bringing a pair of sweat pants so we can let our bellies purposely expand.

Do you feel fearful about losing control with food when it comes to celebrations?

  • Maybe you are scared that if you eat food that you normally view as “bad”, or a “big no-no” in your nutrition plan, you know you won’t be able to stop eating and eating.
  • If you count macros or calories, maybe you stress about how to keep track of your numbers if you do not know exactly how many calories, points, macros, etc grandma’s homemade food is.
  • Maybe you starve yourself all day just to save your calories for the huge Turkey Dinner, and then end up feeling painfully uncomfortable because you overate three times over.
  • Maybe you feel so guilty for eating so much food that the next day you over-exercise to work off all the “damage”.
  • You may find yourself increasingly anxious as Thanksgiving approaches, and you work extra hard at the gym so that you can allow yourself to eat the Turkey dinner.
  • You can’t stop focusing on the number on that scale, and you feel so anxious about gaining weight that you just stay so obsessed about not letting that number on the scale move up, and as a result, feel anxious and stressed overall.

What do all the above scenarios have in common? It all involves how much energy is revolved around your relationship with food and body image. I personally have suffered from all the above situations in the past, and it’s exhausting! So much energy is put into maintaining a certain number on the scale and a certain physique, and I thought the answer was just about what I put in my mouth. So I developed a rigid mindset where I only allowed myself to eat extremely clean foods and would punish myself with destructive self-talk if I ate something that was “not healthy”.

So I’m writing this post because if you can relate to the above situations, I’m reaching out to let you know that there’s hope and you can get out of this love-hate relationship with food.

Here are some guidelines on how to approach Thanksgiving in a proactive way:

  • Create a daily mindful ritual that helps you feel grounded first thing in the morning.
    • I personally apply my Young Living Essential Oils “Joy” and “Abundance” on, and say a positive affirmation that helps me feel into my Higher (Empowered) Self. I start my day in responding mode, rather than reacting mode. Feeling grounded first thing in the morning allows you to build your tolerance to stress.  (start your free account with Young Living so you can receive 24% off retail price and get them delivered straight to your home!)
    • I suggest not to check your emails first thing in the morning because then you are setting yourself up for starting your day in reaction mode. This just creates stress.
  • Eat normally as if you would everyday. Nourish your body, eat regular macro-nutrient balanced meals throughout the day.
  • Drink lots of water throughout the day, you can squeeze fresh lemon in there for improving your digestion and flavour. You can also use Young Living Essential oils in here such as lime, lemon or grapefruit.
  • Move your body because you are respecting it, not because you fear food, fear body fat or are punishing your body.
  • When it comes to the actual celebration meal, here are some ways to prep:
    • Mentally: Prep yourself by telling yourself that the focus is about staying in JOY and CONNECTION with others. Put the social in the foreground, and food in the background.  Give yourself permission to enjoy the food – do not worry about staying within your macros, calories, points, etc. The more stress you put on yourself, the less you will enjoy the overall experience. Thanksgiving is a time to truly focus on gratitude- be thankful for all that you have in your life, keep this as the focus.
    •  Emotionally: Take deep breaths, if you have time, engage in your morning ritual by stating your affirmation and breathing in and applying essential oils, bring them with you as tools to soothe. Or if you don’t use oils, have an image of something calming to come back to in your mind when you start to feel stressed or anxious.
    • Physically: Eat mindfully and slowly, really let yourself savour the food.
    • Spiritually: Stay in connection with yourself, checking in with your level of anxiety and calming down if you notice the anxiety is rising.

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My Most Recent Client Body Love Story

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“Since working with you last year, I have not been on a diet in a year (the old me probably would have been on 6-12 diets by now) and guess what?  I’ve lost 13 pounds.  Thirteen pounds, without even “trying”.  Thirteen pounds that my body no longer needed and was really to let go of.  I feel lighter physically, but mostly mentally.  I am no longer carrying around the weight of “not good enough”.  I feel free.  I love myself more and feel more confident in my skin that I ever have and I just wanted to say thank you, Roz.  Thank you for giving me the tools and encouragement to step in to my power and learn to love myself, flaws and all.  And as an added bonus to this amazing year of transformation, self-love and healing, my back pain is all but gone.  In part because I have started listening to the whispers of my body and not waiting for it to SCREAM at me. Thank you again for everything.  My life is better because of you”. ~ Brandi B. 

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Rosalyn is Founder of Holistic Body Love, Registered Psychologist & a Mindset Coach. She is the go-to person to help you feel more empowered in your relationship with food, body image, weight, positive self-talk, relationships with other people and money mindset. Her website is http://www.holisticbodylove.ca