If You Are Not Happy Read This; If You Are Happy Read This!

Happy

This is rather an unusual post from me. For many of my readers, it may feel different. There is a good reason for that. This is not a post I prepared. It is a sound piece of advice that I had given a friend -Rose –  which kick-started a change of attitude in her and made her more positive. I love my readers and thought that if it helped him maybe it would help you guys too.

You wake up every morning in a country that has no war, no famine, and no pandemic or any kind of fear. You live in a place where the basic human rights are upheld. Education is affordable, food is affordable and many of your basic necessities are fulfilled and that goes without saying. You can even afford some luxury every now and then.

One would think you would be happy and content because the majority of people around the world can only dream of having all this. So what is wrong with you? Why are you not happy with what you have?

I’ll tell you why. You are living in a fantasy world that’s why. You want to look like a fitness model and have everyone love you. Everything that is marketed out there you want to buy. You have the same false expectations about relationships as those shown in movies. You have no idea, absolutely no idea what’s going to happen to you when you die so you cling on to life trying to fight aging as much as you can.

You cannot handle disappointment because you think there is always someone to blame when things don’t go the way you had planned. You are stressed out bordering being depressed.

Here is what you are going to do:

  • Stop basing you r expectations on what you see on television.
  • Stop saying you hate your body but be grateful that you have all your limbs and senses.
  • Look at those below you who are less fortunate; don’t compare yourself to those who are  more fortunate.
  • Feed your body good food.
  • Feed your mind good thoughts and knowledge.
  • Feed your soul the love of God and good deeds.
  • Exercise like there is no tomorrow because it is what you love to do.

 

Would you take this advice or give it to someone? Please tell us what you think and comment below.

43 thoughts on “If You Are Not Happy Read This; If You Are Happy Read This!

  1. Very good advice. I think a big problem with people is not focusing on the right things. On paper, they might have a good job, no money problems, etc and yet if they still have a negative attitude, they can still be unhappy. Sometimes we just need to take a step back and appreciate the little things in life. Thanks for following me btw. Your blog is very interesting- I’ll be looking forward to reading more. All the best 🙂

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  3. I like this and believe we need to focus on what we are grateful for rather than what we feel is wrong. Gratitude breeds happiness in my opinion and so does focusing on the current moment…not a future filled with fear or a past with regret. Living right now in gratitude leads to happiness

  4. Thank you for stopping by and your like on my post! I completely agree with you on all the points above. Happiness comes from the within and a healthier body and mind will make a happier me.

  5. Great message. I especially identified with the part about living in a fantasy land. Happiness does not come from the material world. It has been proven that once a person has the basic necessities for survival, no amount of additional material goods will make them happier.

  6. I like too what’s written here. If people in the west living in good conditions still have a lot of problems, it’s because of emotional scars from consequences of own or others behaviour. Still the only way to come out healed is to take the responsibility of your own life on your self. It takes some years to understand that unless your taught that.

    • Yes exactly; installing the proper mentality is crucial for our children. If we just give them what they want and not teach them how to deal with disappointment or how to be content we create weak adults who end up depressed and unhappy when things don’t go their way.

  7. I totally agree with you. I have realized I have much more control over my feeling than I thought I did. When I get frustrated at the small stuff, I ask myself, do I really want to be feeling this way right now? It helps me let the unimportant matters go. The more I express gratitude, the happier I find myself feeling.

    • We are indeed in charge of our own feelings to some extent. We are absolutely capable of living happier lives by not magnifying the petty things in life. Thank you for your great self-reflective comment.

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  9. While I agree with everything you said, it’s also the way the brain works: everything in perspective. If we had ever spent time in a country torn by war, overcome with abject poverty, if we lived (today) with the same social injustices of days past (not that we don’t have any, just not the same ones) I think we’d all view our current lives very differently in the moment.

    But as you said, we don’t live in that world, in the US anyway. So our baseline is set differently.

    Einstein explained relativity as “The loss of a crown to a king and the loss of a toy to a child are events of the same size.” We can only measure our lives on what we know. If all we’ve known is … pretty good… then our feelings of tragedy and loss will be set according to that baseline. If we know the true horrors this life can offer to some, then we temper ourselves against minor tragedies knowing they are little compared to other experiences.

    Though I agree, the unrealistic and unhealthy expectations we experience certainly work to drag us further down than we should be on average.

    • Well said, I like this part “If all we’ve known is … pretty good… then our feelings of tragedy and loss will be set according to that baseline. If we know the true horrors this life can offer to some, then we temper ourselves against minor tragedies knowing they are little compared to other experiences.” That’s why one of the points I make when I advise friends is to look to those less fortunate to realize how blessed they are. Really great comment.

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