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How to Set Goals, Stick to them and Achieve Them!

Do you set goals with excitement and gung-ho attitude that you are going to “crush” your goals, have fantastic energy and momentum at the start, make some great progress, but maybe a few weeks later, you find yourself slowing down, or perhaps even unmotivated?

Why does this happen and more importantly, how can you make sure to see your goals through?

To understand how our brain works, picture an iceberg which will be representative of our brain. The tip of the iceberg that is visible symbolizes our conscious brain, which is only about 10% of our brain. This part of our brain stores both conscious and unconscious core beliefs. Core beliefs are the files we have that open up and have us react to situations in a certain way because of what we believe, which are formed unconsciously in childhood. These beliefs can serve us or not serve us today. The rest of the iceberg, which is 90%, is our unconscious brain, stores unconscious beliefs.

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We consciously set goals, or another word for this is setting INTENTIONS. So for example, when it comes to weightloss, you may set an intention to lose 20 pounds to improve your health. Let’s say you manage to stay on track to lose 10 pounds over the next eight weeks. Then the next couple weeks, you find yourself starting to eat more foods that do not serve your goals, you are exercising less often and you find yourself giving into your excuses. You even gain back four pounds.

What’s happening? Why are you getting off track from your intention?

Because somewhere in your unconscious part of your brain, you have limiting unconscious beliefs that are sabotaging your efforts. It may sound like, “I am not worthy of my desires”, “It is not safe to be in this body” (usually comes up in cases where a person has been abused as a child), “I do not deserve success”. Again these messages were created unconsciously as a young child (usually) based on our family system, and experiences with peers, teachers, and other influential people in our lives.

So even though you consciously are telling yourself, “Yes I REALLY do want to lose 20 pounds”, there is somewhere inside, unconsciously that does not agree with this. It’s based on fear.

So then, how can you make sure to see your goals through? Here is a blue print for you:

  • Write down your intentions/goals specifically. Track your progress. Remember, results are a reflection of what is happening in the unconscious brain. When you achieve results, your conscious and unconscious beliefs are in alignment. When you only make it up to a certain progress, then your conscious and unconscious minds are not matching.
  • If you notice you are plateauing, sabotaging, or regressing in your goals, take some time to write down honestly what is going on.

So in the example above, it’s acknowledging what is going on regarding behaviors. Writing down statements such as: “I am choosing to eat when I am bored, stressed or to reward myself.” “I am choosing to get distracted by unimportant things rather than work out.” Note the language that you are choosing to do these behaviors.

  • This next step can be a difficult one because you are addressing uncomfortable thoughts and feeling as you dig deeper into your unconscious:

Perhaps you do not feel safe in your body because of past experiences such as being bullied and teased for your body size, your body betrayed you someway with an illness, or you were sexually abused so you cannot trust that your body keeps you safe, because it did not.

Many times, what I see is that as my clients are losing weight, they are getting more attention. This makes them uncomfortable in their body, because of their past experiences. This is a good step to connect with a trained professional such as a coach or therapist about to support you in this step to work through these unconscious core beliefs. We are wounded in relationships, so it only makes sense to be healed in relationships (starting with that of a trained professional).

  • Address how you will work through these limiting beliefs. A good start is to create a statement, called an affirmation, that is the opposite of your limiting belief. So following the above example,

“ I am safe in this body now”. Repeat this statement consciously multiple times a day, especially when you are feeling triggered in feeling uncomfortable. In many ways, you are re-parenting your inner child.

You can also create concrete examples of how to cope with stress, boredom and rewards without turning to food. This is all about changing your self-talk and behaviors to support your new positive self-talk.

  • Get support. Once again, a mindset coach and/or a like-minded group can be extremely helpful to keep your accountability. Research shows that in the absence of the right support, unfortunately, environment always wins. So it’s important to surround yourself with like-minded, positive people who can cheerlead and believe in you.

I hope this article helps you create breakthroughs to crush those goals this year! I’d love to support you if that resonates with you!

Rosalyn Fung, M.Sc., is Founder of Holistic Body Love Coaching Inc.,

a Self-Loveroz6 Transformational Coach & Registered Psychologist.

She loves inspiring others to be empowered in their relationship with food, body, money, health, confidence, and living a joyful and abundant life.

To schedule your COMPLIMENTARY strategy session to see how she can support you in achieving your goals, book here.

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Make Fear Your Friend to Achieve Your Goals

Fear – we all hate that feeling of being uncomfortable and scared. Fear also shows up in anxiety, overwhelm , stuckness, and self-doubt. Fear has many masks.

However it shows up for you, fear stops you from taking action to go to the next level in your life, so that you’re living in your highest version of yourself and be happier.

Let me use this analogy to help you understand conceptually how you may be allowing fear to keep you playing small.

If you look at a spaceship, it needs to have to enough momentum to escape the gravitational forcefield in order to enter space. Once the rocket enters space, then it’s smooth gliding from there and the view is phenomenal, isn’t it?

Now imagine that YOU are the spaceship and the gravitational force field is your comfort zone, and outside of your comfort zone is fear. You need to have enough momentum and energy to take yourself pass this force field in order to really get to where you need to get to when it comes to achieving your goals – whether that’s making new friends, trying a new hobby, changing your relationship with food, achieving your dream body, starting a new business or letting go of a toxic relationship.

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Once you achieve your goal, you experience a state of feeling exhilarated, powerful, and proud of yourself, amongst other amazing feelings. It’s truly incredible how the Universe really does provide you the supports you need to help you get to where you want to go, when you are truly opened to it.

Whatever your “goal” is, let yourself make friends with fear, because without it, this means your goals are not challenging you enough to get you into your Highest Self. So making friends with fear is about leaning into the resistance, rather than avoiding or fighting it.

Here’s an example. My client Kate (note: name is changed to maintain confidentiality) came to see me because she wants to lose weight and feels frustrated with not achieving this goal. She has been following a very structured eating plan. However, her approach to her relationship with food has her constantly obsessed with it- from the amount of time she has to take planning and prepping so that she eats the perfect amount of protein, carbs, fats down to the measurement, to thinking about the next meal she eats, to figuring out how to sneak in that cupcake and then work out extra hard so she can eat it, to overindulging at parties at the bread and dessert table, to obsessing over the number on the scale and getting frustrated that the results are not happening fast enough…she cannot stop obsessing about food, and it completely controls her life. She’s constantly thinking or talking about losing weight to her friends and family.

What I invite Kate to do next is to learn to let go of control in her relationship with food. The very aspect that keeps her tight and controlled is the same aspect that is keeping her playing small and “falsely safe”. Letting go of control of course brings up extremely amount of discomfort and fear. “If I let go of being so structured and control with food, how will I ever lose weight?!” This does not make sense to Kate because her fear makes her believe that letting go emotionally and mentally is equivalent of letting herself go physically.  In fact, this is not true.

Kate needs the “momentum” of learning to face her fear and work through it, which is where I come in to support and guide her with strategies so that she can pierce past the boundaries of her comfort zone (that is, how she was going into relationship with food).

After only working with Kate for a few sessions and having her understand the negative impact control had over her in mind, body and spirit, and learning tools to approach her relationship with food and her body in a more loving, gentle way, she started to lose the weight. Today, Kate has lost her goal weight and more importantly, speaks to herself kindly and feels at peace in her relationship with food. She is “soaring” and feeling free! Yay Kate!

If you’re inspired and resonate with Kate’s story, I’d love to support you as a Self-Love IMG_0909Transformational Coach!

Go ahead and book in a complimentary strategy session with me now to see how I can best help you achieve your goals! I’d absolutely love to!🙂

Rosalyn Fung, M.Sc., is the Founder of Holistic Body Love. You can learn more about her on her website here.

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How to Enjoy Thanksgiving without Overeating, Binging or Feeling Guilty

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Canadian Thanksgiving Is this weekend, and American Thanksgiving is not far behind!

Thanksgiving and other special occasions are usually events that are celebrated with food…and LOTS of it. It’s a time where we joke about bringing a pair of sweat pants so we can let our bellies purposely expand.

Do you feel fearful about losing control with food when it comes to celebrations?

Maybe you are scared that if you eat food that you normally view as “bad”, or a “big no-no” in your nutrition plan, you know you won’t be able to stop eating and eating.

If you count macros or calories, maybe you stress about how to keep on track of your numbers if you do not know exactly how many calories, points, macros, etc grandma’s homemade food is.

Maybe you starve yourself all day just to save your calories for the huge Turkey Dinner, and then end up feeling painfully uncomfortable because you overate three times over.

Maybe you feel so guilty for eating so much food that the next day you over-exercise to work off all the “damage”.

You may find yourself increasingly anxious as Thanksgiving approaches, and you work extra hard at the gym so that you can allow yourself to eat the Turkey dinner.

You can’t stop focusing on the number on that scale, and you feel so anxious about gaining weight that you just stay so obsessed about not letting that number on the scale move up, and as a result, feel anxious and stressed overall.

What do all the above scenarios have in common? It all involves how much energy is revolved around your relationship with food and body image. I personally have suffered from all the above situations in the past, and it’s exhausting! So much energy is put into maintaining a certain number on the scale and a certain physique, and I thought the answer was just about what I put in my mouth. So I developed a rigid mindset where I only allowed myself to eat extremely clean foods and would punish myself with destructive self-talk if I ate something that was “not healthy”.

So I’m writing this post because if you can relate with the above situations, I’m reaching out to let you know that there’s hope and you can get out of this love-hate relationship with food.

Here’s some guidelines on how to approach Thanksgiving in a proactive way:

  • Create a daily mindful ritual that is helps you feel grounded first thing in the morning.
    • I personally apply my Young Living Essential Oils “Joy” and “Abundance” on, and say a positive affirmation that helps me feel into my Higher (Empowered) Self. I start my day in responding mode, rather than reacting mode. Feeling grounded first thing in the morning allows you to build your tolerance to stress.  (Use this link to start your free account with Young Living so you can receive 24% off retail price and get them delivered straight to your home!)
    • I suggest not to check your emails first thing in the morning because then you are setting yourself up for starting your day in reaction mode. This just creates stress.
  • Eat normally as if you would everyday. Nourish your body, eat regular macronutrient balanced meals throughout the day.
  • Drink lots of water throughout the day, you can squeeze fresh lemon in there for improving your digestion and flavour. You can also use Young Living Essential oils in here such as lime, lemon or grapefruit.
  • Move your body because you are respecting it, not because you fear food, fear body fat or are punishing your body.
  • When it comes to the actual celebration meal, here are some ways to prep:
    • Mentally: Prep yourself by telling yourself that the focus is about staying in JOY and CONNECTION with others. Put the social in the foreground, and food in the background.  Give yourself permission to enjoy the food – do not worry about staying within your macros, calories, points, etc. The more stress you put on yourself, the less you will enjoy the overall experience. Thanksgiving is a time to truly focus on gratitude- be thankful for all that you have in your life, keep this the focus.
    •  Emotionally: Take deep breaths, if you have time, engage in your morning ritual by stating your affirmation and breathing in and applying essential oils, bring them with you as tools to soothe. Or if you don’t use oils, have an image of something calming to come back to in your mind when you start to feel stressed or anxious.
    • Physically: Eat mindfully and slowly, really let yourself savour the food.
    • Spiritually: Stay in connection with yourself, checking in with your level of anxiety and calming if you notice the anxiety is rising.

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“Since working with you last year, I have not been on a diet in a year (the old me probably would have been on 6-12 diets by now) and guess what?  I’ve lost 13 pounds.  Thirteen pounds, without even “trying”.  Thirteen pounds that my body no longer needed and was really to let go of.  I feel lighter physically, but mostly mentally.  I am no longer carrying around the weight of “not good enough”.  I feel free.  I love myself more and feel more confident in my skin that I ever have and I just wanted to say thank you, Roz.  Thank you for giving me the tools and encouragement to step in to my power and learn to love myself, flaws and all.  And as an added bonus to this amazing year of transformation, self-love and healing, my back pain is all but gone.  In part because I have started listening to the whispers of my body and not waiting for it to SCREAM at me. Thank you again for everything.  My life is better because of you”. ~ Brandi B. 

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Rosalyn is Founder of Holistic Body Love, Registered Psychologist & a Mindset Coach. She is the go-to person to help you feel more empowered in your relationship with food, body image, weight, positive self-talk, relationships with other people and money mindset. Her website is http://www.holisticbodylove.ca

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How to Naturally Get a Good Night’s Sleep to Reduce Anxiety

Sleep is very important when it comes to health and productivity. However, not many people are able to enjoy a good night’s sleep and this could lead to serious cases of anxiety, stress and even mental breakdown. Research has shown that everyone needs to enjoy not only the right amount of time in sleep but also to do it qualitatively.

Unfortunately, many people today can’t easily fall asleep without taking sleep pills or drugs. The good news however is that each one of us can enjoy peaceful sleep naturally. This article will discuss some natural ways to help you get a good night’s sleep to help reduce anxiety.

Control the amount of light you are exposed to prior to bedtime

Exposure to light normally triggers the production of melatonin hormone which helps in the regulation of sleep-wake cycles. This hormone is normally secreted by the brain when it’s dark thus helping you to sleep.

When the light is bright, the brain produces less melatonin which makes you more alert. As such, maintaining dimmer lighting in your bedroom could naturally help you sleep peacefully and thus reduce anxiety. It will also be good to avoid watching television until bedtime as this could be disruptive to your sleep.

Try some yoga

Yoga has been found to be helpful when it comes to the calming of the mind and body. When the body is stressed due to the strenuous activities of the day, sleeping peacefully becomes an uphill task. However, by practicing yoga before bedtime, you will be able to relieve the mind and  thus helping you to sleep calmly. This is a natural thing and works effectively well.

Check what you eat especially at night

Your eating habits have a direct relation with how you sleep at night. Not only should you watch what you eat at night but also at daytime as this plays a major role in the way your body reacts or responds. You should avoid things such as nicotine and caffeine, avoid eating too much at night and if possible, eat a few hours before going to bed.

An early meal is encouraged and this should not contain acidic and spicy foods as these could cause heartburn and stomach trouble keeping you awake or giving you troubled sleep. Energy drinks should also be avoided at night as too much of the same will cause you to wake up thus disrupting your sleep cycle.

Create the right sleeping environment

The environment you sleep in will play an important role in determining whether your sleep will, be restful or troubled. In addition to lighting, you should try to eliminate unnecessary noise and keep your room cool.

Sleeping environments that are too cold or too hot could greatly interfere with your sleep thus denying you the opportunity to enjoy quality time. No matter how many hours you sleep, your body and mind will still not have rested if you spend most of this time tossing and turning in bed.

Sleep on a good bed

Everything else you do will fail if you do not have the right bed to sleep on. Your mattress should be comfortable and supportive. As such, it is good to have a mattress with the best firmness so as to support the spinal cord and the entire body. You may need to add a nice pillow and mattress topper as these will help improve the support on your head and body respectively. Additionally, your bedding should be made of breathable material and offer enough space for you to stretch comfortably as you sleep.

With these few tips, you can deal with cases of insomnia and get a good night’s sleep to reduce anxiety. We all need relaxed sleep if we are to enjoy good mental, emotional and physical health. Try these methods and enjoy great results.


Molly Garner is a freelance writer at MemoryFoamMattressGuide.com . She also writes about herbal and mental health and shares amazing tips to maintain and rebuild good health. Molly’s mission is to help people get energized and achieve healthy lives so they can concentrate on the important things in life.

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5 Common Issues Children of Alcoholics Face as Adults

It is a club most never ask to join, but there is a solidarity among members that is hard to find anywhere else. Given a choice, most who belong wouldn’t have chosen the path that brought them there. Not only do they still carry the emotional, and sometimes physical, scars of that journey but some have been cursed to repeat the journey in their own lives.

drunkenAdult children of alcoholics (ACOA) spend most of their childhoods struggling to make sense of the insanity that is alcoholism, only to find out as adults that they still don’t have all the answers. Even more frustrating is the awareness that for all the promises that they were *never* going to be like *them* when they grew up, they often find themselves back in the vicious cycle of addiction.

One in four children under the age of 18 are exposed to alcoholism in their family, and those children are four times more likely to face their own addictions as adults. They are also more likely to marry someone dealing with alcoholism, either their own or with a similar family history. For some it can be a double-edged sword because they will either become the alcoholic, or marry one. Even if they escape the addictive personality, they are sometimes drawn to partners who will treat the as badly as they saw their parents treating each other.

Copycat Behaviors

Parents model many of the behaviors that children learn from, and that includes how to treat other people. If, for example, a son grows up seeing his alcoholic father or mother berate and belittle the other parent, he learns from their example how to 1) berate and belittle others; 2) what constitutes “acceptable” behavior in a relationship, especially if the other parent never stands up for themselves. It can create conflicting emotions as an adult because they will either look for someone they can bully, or try to find someone who will bully them.

Controlling Walls

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As children, they saw or experienced painful behaviors from the alcoholic and so as adults, the walls they build are comprised of rigid routines, inflexible predictability, “no one will ever treat me like that,” and “I will never do that.” It is their way of controlling what they couldn’t control as children, and it helps to make them feel safe again.

When someone breaks one of their boundary rules, changes plans, or they feel  out of control in other ways, there can be a sudden reaction of anger and anxiety. Relationships can be swiftly and uncompromisingly ended. It is often “all or nothing” or “my way or the highway.”

Role Reversals

In some single parent homes where the parent is the alcoholic, children may roles reverse and it is the child that takes care of the parent. Often if there are multiple children in the home, the oldest child becomes the parent for all of them, because there were no other options. As an adult, an ACOA may become overly responsible, taking responsibility for things that are out of their control such as problems they didn’t cause or other people’s feelings.

Isolation as a Wall

alcoholicWith a childhood that was often filled with neglect, abuse, rejection, or feeling unloved, unwanted, and alone, ACOAs can have a hard time trusting others, making it hard to develop lasting relationships because they can’t bring themselves to open up to others in an effort to protect themselves from getting hurt again. They may not even know how to trust themselves, or honestly know who they are. They may have hidden their own emotions for so long, going along with what others wanted just to keep people from knowing them.

Approval Seekers

ACOAs want to be liked, loved, accepted and approved after childhoods filled with everything but those needs. They want to avoid conflict, and so they do whatever is necessary to make everyone happen, even at the sacrifice of their own desires. Hand in hand with people pleasing, ACOAs can also be perfectionists. In another effort to avoid conflict and criticism as a child, they sometimes had unattainable goals of perfection which may carry into adulthood.

A Brighter Future

While these are just a few of the traits that Adult Children of Alcoholics may have learned as coping mechanisms, there is hope for change. Counseling, or (free) groups like Al-Anon and ACOA, can provide help, direction, support, materials, and just the knowledge that you are not alone in your struggles. Sometimes the road to recovery begins with a  welcoming hug.


Jennifer Landis is a tea-drinking, yoga loving, clean eating blogger, writer, wife, and mother. You can find more from Jennifer at her blog, Mindfulness Mama.

Ultimate Guide to Post-Workout & Muscle Recovery (Infographic]

Do you need an energy boost after your workout? Or maybe you want to increase your endurance? Some of us may even want enhance our muscle recovery so that we can reach our training goals. The answer? Post-workout supplements.

There is a lot to consider when it comes to supplementing while working out. Post-workout nutrition & supplements are just as important as your pre-workout supplementation. By taking care of your body after your workout, you are helping your body absorb all of the benefits from your work-out while also allowing your muscles time to heal. The benefits to post-workout supplementation also include:

  • Improving your immune function.
  • Enhancing bone mass.
  • Increasing your ability to utilise body fat.
  • Reduces soreness in your muscles.
  • Improves your ability to add muscle.

In 2016, there are virtually thousands of different supplements on the market. This can make it difficult to know which supplements are right for you. The most important thing to be aware of is the ingredients in the supplement you are planning on taking. For example, the most esstential ingredients in post-workout supplements should include some of the following: tart cherry, BCAAs, carbohydrates, vitamin C and vitamin B6 & B12.

The people at Supplement Mart have made this awesome infographic that provides us with all of the essential information we need to know about post-workout nutrition and supplements. Let’s check it out!

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No Surprise Medical Bills – Medical Procedure Estimate Tools

You deserve to know the cost of caring for your health.

Amino @AminoHealth recently launched new health care cost estimate tools that you will be interested in.

See cost estimates for ~50 medical procedures and services nationwide (USA) across dermatology, diagnostics, men’s health, orthopedics, preventative care, surgeries, and women’s health.

Amino tools now let you:

  • Compare cost differences in your region based on your insurance.

  • Calculate what you might pay from your own bank account with an out-of-pocket cost calculator.

  • View and compare cost estimates for individual doctors–and book an appointment with the doctor of your choice for free through Amino.

As part of their  launch campaign, they created an exclusive infographic that will walk you through the complexities of estimating health care costs.

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